Guy Brighton: Diary: NY Times Publishes Vital Info 3 Months 14 Days Too Late

Diary: NY Times Publishes Vital Info 3 Months 14 Days Too Late

From the NY Times with the answers I would have given on September 2nd 2006

Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:

1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

WHEN SHE'S HAPPY

6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?

IS THERE ANY CHOICE?

9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

NO. AVOIDED DISCUSSION SUCCESSFULLY.

10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?

NO. (Sorry for all those friends of hers reading this - but hey, the truth sometimes hurts).

11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

YES but YES

12) What does my family do that annoys you?

LIPS SEALED

13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

ACTING LIKE I'M NOT MARRIED??

14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?

I'LL GO ANYWHERE. SHE'LL GO ANYWHERE THAT SPEAKS SPANISH/ITALIAN & IS BY THE MED.

15) Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

YES.

Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying - New York Times